I know from my own experiences that it doesn't happen with many of people rather than with an small percentage of them! I can tell that most of them try to escape of what they have, and that's why unconsciously they get what they want!
Yet in many cases i could be wrong, but deep inside i know that i must be right... I know that when people try to escape of what they have, they also change of whom they are - with it changes their attitude... Regarding this, they are not afraid to try something new or to fail to succeed reaching their goal; In-fact, during that time they are self motivators inspiring surrounding people unknowingly: I've seen it, and I've seen it many times over and over again!
And here's one Motivational Video for you: Listen,watch and understand!
Video posted in YouTube by "EminemVEVO"